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A Handicap, a Friend, a Dilemma

December 16th, 2008

Meditation Two ladies shared the pool in the gym with me yesterday, slowly making their lanes up and down while busy chatting. I wouldn’t have paid much attention, had it not been very obvious (even without paying much attention) that one of them could swim in a nice and steady breaststroke, while her friend could not.

She didn’t even manage a dog’s paddle very well. That’s how I noticed her, splashing about and always in danger of drowning. What I also noticed was how self-conscious she seemed, desperately trying not to be seen as one who cannot swim. The whole thing might have started with her swimming friend suggesting that they should meet for a a couple of lanes once a week, and the non-swimmer being too shy and embarrassed to admin that she never learnt to swim in the first place.

I felt sorry for her. I wanted to stop her in her tracks and offer impromptu tuition. If my observations and conclusions were right, then this would have been even more embarrassing for her, so I didn’t. Instead, I tried not to look, and continued with my lanes instead.

Her friend must have noticed, too, and must have also opted for the embarrassment-free ‘ignore’ option. That I found even sadder. What else does one have friends for, I ask?

Maybe my master plan should be to befriend the non-swimming lady, then turn her into a self-confident swimmer and a happier person. Tricky.

Thoughts

  1. the sister
    December 16th, 2008 at 16:30 | #1

    Etwas ähnliches in puncto Selbstbewusstsein im Wasser habe ich im Sommer erlebt, allerdings nicht so bedauernswert. Da hat mich einer meiner großmäuligen Schüler herausgefordert, er würde mich “abziehen”. Leider konnte er auch nicht wirklich schwimmen

  2. December 16th, 2008 at 16:37 | #2

    Oops. “Meine” Dame war eher kleinlaut, glaube ich. Mit Grossmaeuligkeit habe ich so meine Probleme, da haette ich vielleicht die Herausforderung angenommen.

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